Meet Your True Self – A Meditation

Ask a child what they want to be when they “grow up” and they are likely to give you a pretty detailed description of what career they want, what they want to have, and things they want to do. Children are blessed with the knowledge of who they are truly meant to be in this life. Children are in touch with their “True Self”.

I can remember, as a child, having a very specific dream/plan for what my adult life was going to be like. While it is a little too much to go into here, suffice it to say most of my plans have yet to come to fruition. Sadly, as I grew up I began to listen to the voices that told me:

• “You’re not smart enough to be…”
• You’re not pretty enough.”
• You’re too short.”
• “Why would you want to go there?”
• “That’s a silly dream. You need to give it up.”
• “That is NOT what adults do!”
• Blah, blah, blah……

Unfortunately, that is how it goes for many of us. We give up the dreams of childhood for the logic and responsibility of adulthood. <insert sad face here>

But what if you could get back in touch with some of those dreams and find a path to get back to your “True Self”?

Today’s guided meditation, is intended to help you reconnect with your true self and your best life. This mediation can help guide you down the path to a more fulfilling career, improved relationships, better health, more happiness, and possibly even that unicorn you always wanted. Ok, maybe not the unicorn…

As with any meditation, this is a tool to help you focus your thoughts on the positive. It is in no way intended to be the sole method you use to improve your current situation (that’s a fancy way of saying, if you’re sick seek medical attention and if you need money keep going to work, etc.)

So, find a safe comfy place to sit back, relax and take some time for yourself:

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Love Yourself, Reach Your Goals

What goals did you set for yourself this year? Do you want to: run a marathon, lose 20 pounds, get a new job, find your soulmate, pay off your credit cards, or buy a new home?

No matter what your goals are for 2019, you cannot expect to achieve them if you don’t believe you deserve them. Believing you deserve to make your goal a reality is a crucial step in reaching that goal and yet, I often find when working with clients it is missing from the goal setting equation!

Believing you deserve to have, be, or do anything you want is about loving yourself enough to allow yourself to have, be, or do whatever it is you are wanting.

If you do not love yourself, you will never have the power to press forward with your goal when the road gets rocky and challenges emerge. Instead, you will start to doubt yourself and your abilities and start believing the naysayers and negative Nancy’s’.

See if this sounds familiar:

“What was I thinking? I’ll never be able to lose weight. I don’t have the willpower.”

OR

” Mom was right. Men don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses.”

If you want to finally get on track to achieving your goals and stay on track you MUST start loving and believing in yourself!

Here is a little exercise to get you started:

• Find a mirror. Any mirror will work, it can be the mirror in your bathroom, a hand mirror, or the visor mirror in your car. If you can’t find a mirror “selfie mode”on your phone will work.
• Look at yourself in the mirror. Look directly into your own eyes. For some of you, this may be uncomfortable. Take a breath and power through. You CAN do this.
• While looking into your eyes, state out loud at least 10 things you LOVE about yourself. They can be anything; physical attributes, habits, behaviors, attitudes, accomplishments…

“I love my soft silky hair.”

“I love that I am a hard worker.”

“I love that I am intelligent.”

“I love that I finished my work project ahead of schedule and got compliments from my boss.”

Be creative! Have fun! Enjoy the process. Allow yourself to feel good.

Do this exercise every day for a month and take notice of how your life starts to shift and your goals get closer to reality. You will be glad you did!

Let us know how the exercise worked for you, LIKE, us on Facebook and leave a message!

Until next time, have a happy healthy day!

What Do YOU Deserve?

When working with clients (and even with myself), I find one of the biggest blockages to successfully achieving our goals is that we do not truly believe we deserve them.

Many of us seem to suffer from what I like to call, Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome.

For example, you say, “I want financial freedom” or “I want to be a millionaire.” But then you start thinking:

“Who do you think you are? You’re no Bill Gates!”

“Who do you think you are? You’re not smart, creative, well connected, etc. enough to become a millionaire.”

“Who do you think you are? Your family never had money.”

OR

You want to lose some weight, but then those thoughts creep in:

“Who do you think you are? You’ve always been overweight.”

“Who do you think you are? Your whole family is fat.”

“Who do you think you are? You can’t exercise 3 days a week.”

Somewhere though our life we have created a belief that we don’t deserve to be wealthy, healthy, loved, happy, have a job we enjoy, and so on. So we dream big, but never achieve that dream because after all we don’t deserve it (or so we tell ourselves).

The best way I have found to start dissolving this belief is with a little exercise designed to remind us we are deserving of EVERYTHING we desire. Here’s how it works:

Every day for the next 2 weeks (or longer) set a timer for 3 minutes. During that 3 minute period write down everything you think you deserve, from the littlest molecule of oxygen to $100,000,000. Write down anything that pops into your head, don’t think about it and do not dismiss it. It came to you for a reason. You may find this exercise a little tough the first few days, especially if you have a significant case of Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome, but I assure you it will get easier each day.

To help you get started here are a few ideas:

• I deserve to be wealthy.
• I deserve to be loved.
• I deserve to live in a safe neighborhood.
• I deserve healthy food.
• I deserve the time to take care of myself
• I deserve to be happy.
• I deserve a Ferrari.
• I deserve respect.
• I deserve to treat others as I want to be treated.
• I deserve career I love.

There are literally 1000s of things you deserve, take the time each day to write them down. See how creative you can get. Have fun, enjoy taking the time for yourself, and most of all BELIEVE you deserve all good things!

Until next time have a happy healthy day!

October Monthly Wellwork

Welcome to October!

This month, I have a question for you:

Do you love yourself?

I am not talking about narcissism or vanity but rather a healthy respect for yourself.  Do you love yourself enough to take care of your needs physically, emotionally and spiritually.  Do you expect and require people around you to respect and support you.  Are you respectful and supportive yourself.

Many of us, especially those with families, will put the needs, feelings, and opinions of others ahead of our own.  We will sacrifice ourselves to keep others happy or to avoid conflict.  But, in doing so we also sacrifice our self-esteem, self-worth and our individual identity.  We become unhappy, depressed or even angry and resentful because we are not our true self.  We don’t love who we are because we are not who we really are.

This month keep a journal of things you love about yourself.  Write in it every day if you can.  If not, do it at least 4 days a week.  It doesn’t have to be a long list just 2 or 3 things (more if you like, that’s even better).  Try to think of different things each day, get creative!  Maybe you love your eyes, your smooth skin, perhaps you love your strong work ethic or your dedication to your family.  Try things like: 

I love that I am a great cook.

I love myself because I exercise 5 days a week.

I love my creativity.

I love myself because I take time to meditate every day.

I love my positive “can do” attitude.

As you go through the month take notice of how the people around you start to treat you.  As we become more loving toward ourselves the people around us become more loving toward us.

This exercise is so powerful and so much fun and it only takes a few minutes a day to create big changes in your life so embrace it, enjoy it and as always have a happy healthy day!

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“The most delightful surprise in life is to suddenly recognise your own worth.” – Maxwell Maltz

Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon from about 1930’s-1950’s.  He was one of the early pioneers in the world of self-help.  In 1960, he wrote a book expressing the opinion, based of years of counseling patients, that without a positive view of his/herself an individual will be stuck in a continual pattern of repeating limiting beliefs thereby never successfully achieving their goals.