We go through life assuming that those we love know that we love them. We think that our words and deeds prove our love. And they do. But how often do we sit down and look a friend or family member in the eye and say with sincerity, “I love you”. Not as often as we should.
So today, pick a friend or a family member (or a complete stranger if you’re so inclined) and with complete presence and genuineness tell them you love them. Tell them why if you choose or simply tell them and leave it at that.
Do it in person if you can or through a video chat, but make a person to person connection.
Don’t require a response back and don’t be upset if they don’t respond the way you think they should. Your purpose in this exercise is to share your feelings with your loved one and the Universe. Your words of love with do a great deal to positively impact both.
A few weeks ago, I was working in a group of fellow manifestors and I posed this fill-in the blank statement:
Today I intend to powerfully and successfully manifest________________________________.
Answers ranged from a new job, a car, a dream home, peace on earth, good health and the most common, financial abundance.
Now, theses are all great answers, but it got me thinking, “What IS financial abundance?” Or “What exactly does good health mean?” The answer to these questions is likely different for each person that completed my original statement. It occurred to me with all of these vague answers how is the Universe supposed to know what to deliver to you?
For example, you say, “I want to manifest a new job.” So, the Universe sends you a job, at a fast food restaurant. Not exactly what you intended. Then you end up frustrated because you got a job, but it isn’t what you wanted or dreamt. And the Universe says, “Hey, you said a new job you didn’t give me specifics! Don’t be picky”
Ok, maybe the Universe leaves out the “picky” part.
The point is, often we ask the Universe for something we want, but we are so vague and wish-washy about it that the Universe is left in limbo trying to figure out what we want it to deliver us.
The best way to resolve this miscommunication, is to get REALLY specific about what you want the Universe to deliver to you, put in every detail you can think of: how does it feel, what does it look like, smell like, where are you, who is with you, when is it taking place, how much? Keeping adding as new details occur to you.
Here’s an example:
Hello Universe, I would like a new career that allows me to work anywhere I choose in the world and on my own time schedule. I prefer to work alone or with a group of 3-4 people who share my ideas and passions. I want to use my skills in life coaching to help people achieve their goals and live their best life. I want to receive $15,000 every month in income so that I can travel, donate to my favorite charities, and start my own arts endowment.
Even though you get specific about what you want, DO NOT get too attached to the outcome. You have given the Universe a blueprint to work from, but as in any development process alterations may need to be made for the plans to work out in the fastest, easiest, most beneficial way.
After all if you ask for $1,000,000 and you get $3,000,000 will you be disappointed? Probably not!
I am a fan of adding, “This or something better”, to the end of my manifest requests just to let the Universe know I am open to a variety of options and solutions.
So, the next time you choose to manifest anything: a new car, great health, your soul mate, a nice dinner, or anything else make sure you help the Universe bring it into your reality by giving it a roadmap to follow and allowing the Universe to take a few detours to make the journey more fun and exciting!
When working with clients (and even with myself), I find one of the biggest blockages to successfully achieving our goals is that we do not truly believe we deserve them.
Many of us seem to suffer from what I like to call, Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome.
For example, you say, “I want financial freedom” or “I want to be a millionaire.” But then you start thinking:
“Who do you think you are? You’re no Bill Gates!”
“Who do you think you are? You’re not smart, creative, well connected, etc. enough to become a millionaire.”
“Who do you think you are? Your family never had money.”
You want to lose some weight, but then those thoughts creep in:
“Who do you think you are? You’ve always been overweight.”
“Who do you think you are? Your whole family is fat.”
“Who do you think you are? You can’t exercise 3 days a week.”
Somewhere though our life we have created a belief that we don’t deserve to be wealthy, healthy, loved, happy, have a job we enjoy, and so on. So we dream big, but never achieve that dream because after all we don’t deserve it (or so we tell ourselves).
The best way I have found to start dissolving this belief is with a little exercise designed to remind us we are deserving of EVERYTHING we desire. Here’s how it works:
Every day for the next 2 weeks (or longer) set a timer for 3 minutes. During that 3 minute period write down everything you think you deserve, from the littlest molecule of oxygen to $100,000,000. Write down anything that pops into your head, don’t think about it and do not dismiss it. It came to you for a reason. You may find this exercise a little tough the first few days, especially if you have a significant case of Who Do You Think You Are Syndrome, but I assure you it will get easier each day.
To help you get started here are a few ideas:
I deserve to be wealthy.
I deserve to be loved.
I deserve to live in a safe neighborhood.
I deserve healthy food.
I deserve the time to take care of myself
I deserve to be happy.
I deserve a Ferrari.
I deserve respect.
I deserve to treat others as I want to be treated.
I deserve career I love.
There are literally 1000s of things you deserve, take the time each day to write them down. See how creative you can get. Have fun, enjoy taking the time for yourself, and most of all BELIEVE you deserve all good things!
As the week begins, we can easily get caught up in the hurry and chaos of the week. While trying to meet all of our obligations and responsibilities to our family, friends, and coworkers, we often forget to stop and care for ourselves and our needs.
We forget to show ourselves some loving care.
It is important to remember that caring for ourselves is not selfish, it is what is required to allow us to have the energy and focus we need to help those around us.
Taking time to love and care for ourselves is the best way to love and care for others.
I just read 2 great blog posts about ways to practice self-compassion through the holiday season (and all year) and I thought I would share the links with you. Both posts have several tips and tricks to help you take care of you. After all you deserve your own love and kindness just as much as everyone else.
Here is another great video from MindValley.com. This time the speaker Sean Stephenson. If you have never seen him speak you will really enjoy his ability to use wit and humor to get his message across in a meaningful and entertaining way. In this short video he discusses 3 things he learned when he met the Dalai Lama.
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