We have all had a thought, an idea, or a dream we felt drawn to follow and explore. Whether it was a childhood dream to be an astronaut or a goal to start your own business at age 50, we have all felt the tug at our hearts and minds to follow a path.
But, for many of us, we have also heard the words of friends, foes and loved ones telling us it is impossible: “You’re too old”, “You’re not smart enough”, “You don’t have the time/money”, “No one has done that before”, “You should give up”.
The thought today is, when you feel that pull, when you know in your heart you should follow a dream, DO IT!
What goals did you set for yourself this year? Do you want to: run a marathon, lose 20 pounds, get a new job, find your soulmate, pay off your credit cards, or buy a new home?
No matter what your goals are for 2019, you cannot expect to achieve them if you don’t believe you deserve them. Believing you deserve to make your goal a reality is a crucial step in reaching that goal and yet, I often find when working with clients it is missing from the goal setting equation!
Believing you deserve to have, be, or do anything you want is about loving yourself enough to allow yourself to have, be, or do whatever it is you are wanting.
If you do not love yourself, you will never have the power to press forward with your goal when the road gets rocky and challenges emerge. Instead, you will start to doubt yourself and your abilities and start believing the naysayers and negative Nancy’s’.
See if this sounds familiar:
“What was I thinking? I’ll never be able to lose weight. I don’t have the willpower.”
” Mom was right. Men don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses.”
If you want to finally get on track to achieving your goals and stay on track you MUST start loving and believing in yourself!
Here is a little exercise to get you started:
Find a mirror. Any mirror will work, it can be the mirror in your bathroom, a hand mirror, or the visor mirror in your car. If you can’t find a mirror “selfie mode”on your phone will work.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Look directly into your own eyes. For some of you, this may be uncomfortable. Take a breath and power through. You CAN do this.
While looking into your eyes, state out loud at least 10 things you LOVE about yourself. They can be anything; physical attributes, habits, behaviors, attitudes, accomplishments…
“I love my soft silky hair.”
“I love that I am a hard worker.”
“I love that I am intelligent.”
“I love that I finished my work project ahead of schedule and got compliments from my boss.”
Be creative! Have fun! Enjoy the process. Allow yourself to feel good.
Do this exercise every day for a month and take notice of how your life starts to shift and your goals get closer to reality. You will be glad you did!
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Have you ever had one of those days where you just thought to yourself, “Ugh, why bother?” You know those days, the ones where you feel like everything you do is doomed to fail miserably. Where do they come from? Who knows. Why do we get them? No clue.
For most of us those moments of gloom don’t last very long, usually a day perhaps two. But if left unchecked they can snowball into a serious case of depression.
Whether your suffering from a momentary lapse of reason or a more serious case of the “I’m a losers'” I have a quick tip that can help you shift your mood and get back on track in no time:
Ask yourself, “What am I proud of?” Make a list of all of the things you can think of you are proud of such as your work ethic, the business you started, your child getting an “A’ in English, your home, the landscaping you did on your yard over the weekend, going to the gym when you’d rather watch TV, your compassion, etc. Next, ask yourself, “What else?” I guarantee you will think of something else you are proud of. Keep asking, “What else?” until you are absolutely out of things to brag about. And that is what you are doing! You are bragging about your accomplishments.
Your Ego is being a bully and telling you you are no good so stand up to that bully and let him/her have it! Tell it every reason why you are a great amazing success!
Try it, modify it to fit your needs and let me know how it works for you.
Want to identify the the limitations in your current way of thinking that are making it difficult for you to believe in yourself and your dreams? Set up a private session with me and start learning that you DO have everything you need to achieve all of your dreams. Contact me at www.wellnessphx.com/contact-us.html