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You Are Who You Are…

The experiences of your life, both good and bad, shape who you are.  To feel anger, sadness, regret, or hatred about those experiences means you must feel some level of those feelings about yourself.

In order to truly love and feel good about yourself, you must acknowledge and accept the negative experience as much as the positive ones.

 You do not need to be thrilled about them and you don’t have to dwell on or repeat them, but you do need to embrace and be grateful for the lessons they taught you, for without them you would not be you!


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The Power of “IS/ARE” statements

A few months ago, I wrote about the power of, “I AM” statements.  In that post, I suggested you use “I AM…” statements to help you powerfully manifest the life of your dreams.  In the eyes of The Universe, “I am” statements are statements of fact.  Whatever you say you are is what you are, as far as The Universe is concerned.  As a result, consciously making empowering, “I AM” statements can help shape and define your life.

The great thing about “I am” statements is you can use them to help improve your relationships with the people around you.  When you say things like, “We are…” or “They are…” you also call into existence more of the corresponding qualities.

For example, if you are talking about your coworkers and you say, “WE ARE a terrific team!”  You create an even better and more cohesive team.  Or in relation to your spouse, “He/She IS loving and supportive”, you are guaranteed to create even more love and support.

Remember, these types of statements do not need to be true NOW, they simply need to be positive beliefs you choose to manifest,

To be clear, “They are”, “He/she is”, or “We are” statements are not about changing other people.  We have no power to manifest or force change on others nor should we try.  Instead, these types of statements reframe our views or beliefs about the relationship with these individuals.  As you begin to react differently and more positively to the relationship the other person/people may also begin to react in a more positive way.  Or they may not.  Either way you will be in a better frame of mind and your inner peace and positivity are all that matter when it comes to achieving your dreams.

“Is/Are” statements are not an end all cure all.  If your boss acts like a jerk or your spouse is abusive, using “Is/Are” statements most likely will not miraculously make the situation better, but they may help you manifest a space for yourself that makes your life tolerable until you can create a plan to move on.

Now that you are aware of the power of, “IS/ARE” statements, think about some of the relationships your would like to reinforce or improve and then write down a few statements to support what you want to create.

Feel free to share your statements below to help inspire and motivate other readers.

Until next time:


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Love Yourself Today

As the week begins, we can easily get caught up in the hurry and chaos of the week.  While trying to meet all of our obligations and responsibilities to our family, friends, and coworkers, we often forget to stop and care for ourselves and our needs. 

 We forget to show ourselves some loving care.  

It is important to remember that caring for ourselves is not selfish, it is what is required to allow us to have the energy and focus we need to help those around us. 

 Taking time to love and care for ourselves is the best way to love and care for others.

So, today I encourage you to:


Until next time, have a happy, healthy day!


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GET OUT!!! (of your comfort zone)

Lately, I have been seeing a lot of blogs, Instagram posts, and tweets saying, “the magic happens outside of your comfort zone.”

Being as how I am not a great believer in coincidences, I think the Universe is trying to tell me something.  Hint, hint, wink, wink, nod, Rachel…  “HELLO???!!!!!”  And it got me thinking, “How can I get out of my den of safety and shake things up a bit?”

I know I am not alone in this, most of us “play it safe” in one area of our life or another, however if we want to achieve the goals we have created for ourselves sometimes we must take a trip into the unknown territory just outside of our comfort zone.  We can find a variety of reasons (aka excuses) to stay huddled in our safe place.

Think about some of your goals.  Which ones are dancing just outside of your grasp because you won’t cross the threshold to the discomfort zone?

Here are a few examples:

  • “I want to lose weight, but…
    • I can’t give up bread, chocolate, wine…
    • I don’t have time to exercise.  
    • I never keep it off anyhow, so why bother.
  • I want to get a new job, but…
    • I don’t have the right skills.        
    • I can’t afford to go back to school.          
    • I need to make money to pay my bills, I can’t change jobs now.
  • I want to write a novel, but…
    • I don’t have time to write.  
    • I don’t know how to get it published.                
    • What if it gets panned by critics?

Do any of these sound familiar?

In looking at my own goals, I found a ton of excuses to stay in my cozy little safe zone.  As a result, I came up with a little game to help myself break out of my complacency and start moving in the direction of successfully reaching my goals.

The first thing I did was pick a goal where I was playing it safe:                                                           

Sell 500 copies of, Cooking with Your Canine.

Admittedly, I picked a goal that was not too scary to start out with, so “yes”, I played it safe not playing it safe.

Next, I thought of 3 actions I could take outside of my comfort zone that would help me on my quest:

  • Talk to a local store about carrying my book.                                                          
  • Send a press release to local media outlets including newspapers and news shows.                                                                                                                              
  • Ask friends and clients to help promote the book.

Finally, I acted on each action over the course of 3 days:

  • Day 1, I asked 3 friends to post a link to the book on their social media accounts.                                                                                                                            
    • One person did.  Not a great success, but success none the less.
  • Day 2, I requested a press release be written through a vendor on Fiverr.          
    • I should have the release in 1-2 days.  That’s one baby step outside the comfort zone. 
  • Day 3, I spoke with the manager of a local store about selling my book.                                                                                                                                   
    • He said, “they were not interested at this time, but to check back in the fall”.  Yep, a little bit of a failure, but I still achieved the goal of getting out of my comfort zone, so I’m calling that part of it a win!

Surprise, surprise!!!  I stepped out of my comfort zone and nothing terrible happened!!!  The overall results of this “trip” remain to be seen, but at least I proved to myself and the Universe that I am willing to make the effort to be a little uncomfortable.

Now it’s your turn.  Which of your goals are you not achieving because you are making excuses to stay safe?  Pick one and create 2-3 actions that exist outside of your comfort zone to help support the goal.  You don’t have to take big leaps of faith right away, try something as simple as making a phone call to a potential client, cutting back on your “favorite” food for a few days, or saying, “good morning” to a stranger.  Once you have thought of your actions put them on your “To Do” list right away and get them done!

For me, this game was a little scary and it will probably be scary for you as well.  That’s a good thing!!!!  It means you are committed to working outside your comfort zone and allowing the magic of life to flow to you!

Good luck!

Until next time, have a happy, healthy day!

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What Are You Grateful RIGHT NOW?

 

As I write this, I am sitting on my patio on a sunny, 80 degree afternoon while sipping a glass of wine, and listening to the birds sing and chirp merrily.  It is blissful and I am grateful.

There are so many things to be grateful for every moment of every day that we can often take some of life’s simple pleasures for granted.  But, if we take a few short moments each day to stop and reflect on what we have to be thankful for in that moment, we can begin to see how truly fortunate we are, even if that particular instant is not one of our best or happiest.  Finding things to express gratitude for, even the smallest things, opens us up to receive many more circumstances, events, and individuals for which to be grateful.  It is a not so vicious cycle…

When I wake up in the morning, I set a reminder on my phone for a random time of day that will focus my attention on being grateful then and there!  When I do this, without exception, my day gets better, I feel happier, inspired, relaxed, and work becomes easier and more enjoyable.  

It is a great way to give yourself a non-caffeinated pick me up!

Try it!  You will be amazed at your results!

So without further ado, here is what I am grateful for right now:

  1. I am grateful for sunny days.
  2. I am grateful that my ears allow me to hear the birds singing.
  3. I am grateful for my glass of wine.
  4. I am grateful for my faithful dog, Jake.
  5. I am grateful it is warm outside.
  6. I am grateful for the beautiful flowers blooming in my yard.
  7. I am grateful I live in a quiet, peaceful, and friendly neighborhood.
  8. I am grateful to the Universe for the creative inspiration to write this post.
  9. I am grateful I awoke to this amazing day.
  10. I am grateful to YOU for reading this blog!

Until next time, have a happy, healthy, grateful day!!!

 

 


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Events vs. emotions – Which Do You Choose?

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Take a moment to reflect on the question..  You may even want to take a few days to really stop and think about it.

We all have those days where things are going along swimmingly, we are happy, optimistic, and enjoying life.  Then, out of no where, something happens, out car breaks down, we lose a client, or the barista makes our coffee not to our specifications and “BAM!” our day is ruined.  Now, we feel irritated, stressed out, and drained.

I see this all of the time on social media.  People have “amazing lives”, a terrific spouse, great kids, a job they love, and an awesome car.  They post about it constantly.  Then one day something bad happens, they get sick, into a car accident, or a meeting does not go as planned and suddenly the last 10 months have been hell!!!  Wait, 3 days ago life was perfect, now its been a disaster forever!!!!  What the heck happened?  Basically, these people let the events in their life dictate their emotions.  The negative event yielded  negative emotions.

To be clear, there is NOTHING wrong with having and expressing emotions.  After all, if we are not meant to express them then we would not have them in the first place.  However, letting negative emotions determine the quality of the day or life you live can be detrimental.  

Bemoaning, dwelling on, and dramatizing negative circumstances, events, and people that come into our lives not only attracts more of those things into our lives through the Law of Attraction, but also dooms us to live in sadness, anger, frustration, and anxiety until we eventually encounter a positive event (which we always do).

It has taken me years to learn this lesson, and I continue to work on it every day.  For most of my life I allowed unpleasant and adverse circumstances to trap me in fear, loneliness, anger, and stress.  Even an imagined slight could cause me to sink into depression or angst.  Slowly, I have become conscious of the pattern and made efforts to change the way I react.  These days when I experience a troublesome situation, I stop, take a breath, and think, “Do I want this to ruin my day?”  More often than not the answer is a resounding, “NO!”  I can then make an intentional effort to refocus my mind and emotions to things that are more pleasant and uplifting.    So, rather than the event creating negative emotions, I allow my emotions to defuse the event and keep me in a more positive state of mind.

If you are already adept at letting your emotions determine the events in your life, congratulations!    Please share your tips and tricks in the comments below.  There are plenty of us that can put them to good use.

If you are not as easily able to prevent events from adversely influencing your emotions, it’s ok.  Just know it takes time and a conscious, deliberate effort to create the change.  You will get there you just need to focus and be patient and forgiving to yourself.

Keep in mind that this whole thing works in reverse:  If you dwell and nurture positive, uplifting, joyous, and grateful emotions you will inevitably manifest more events to express happiness, gratitude, and excitement for.

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Take the 24 Hour Opportunity Challenge – Reblog

I first read this post on Rex Sikes’ blog, “Daily Inspiration and Gratitude“.

I usually try to find the opportunity or lesson in every experience, but I thought, “Hey, it can’t hurt to make this my focus for 24 hours.”

Here is what I experienced:

     The first challenge that popped into my mind when I began the challenge was in a relationship with a friend of mine.  When I would invite him to go to lunch or out for drinks, my invitation would be met with, “Well, let me see how the week goes.” or “I’ll let you know.”  Texts and messages often went unanswered for days, if they were answered at all.  This left me feeling  as though I was the backup plan if nothing better to do came along and as a result I felt hurt and frustrated.  I recognize this as a pattern in many friendships throughout my life.  When I looked for the opportunity in this situation, I realized this was an opportunity to say to my friend, The Universe, and most importantly myself, “Hey, I deserve better!”   It showed me that rather than fussing and feeling bad, I need to stand up for myself and make myself a priority in my own life and in the lives of my friends, family, etc.  AND to release the relationships in which I am simply a backup plan.

     The second opportunity I encountered during my “Challenge” involved a personal training client.  He had forgotten to bring his athletic shoes and showed up instead in dress shoes.  Not exactly the best option for our normally intense personal train sessions.  Rather than become flustered, I saw an opportunity to take him through a more core and balance focused routine, something he is usually opposed to doing when he trains with me (he likes to do that stuff on his own).  As a result, we found some flaws in his form and were able to improve on them to get him better results when he trains alone.

     The main thing I realized during the 24 hours, is that I have very few challenges during my day.  Now that I am in the mindset to make opportunities out of challenges I notice how relatively few challenges I face on a daily basis.  I have never really thought of my days as particularly difficult but I was amazed and rather pleased with how few problems I encounter.  True, there are a few things I struggle with, but now I can look for and appreciate the opportunity to change or do something different.  It has been a tremendous lesson learned!

 

Now, its your turn.  Click the link below to find out how to take the challenge.

Take the 24 Hour Opportunity Challenge

Take note of what you learn and experience.  Share your revelations with friends, family, coworkers, your journal, or in the comment section below.

 

If you find you are having difficulty reframing challenges into opportunities, life coaching may be a beneficial way to get started.  For more information on what life coaching is read my blog, What is Life Coaching?  OR fill out the contact form below:


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Be Bold, Take Action!

Today is the first of November.  The end of the year is nearly upon us.

During the year I have be encouraging you to write down your goals for 2016-2017 and to take action to achieve them.  Check out the Achievements 2016-2017 page for more information.

So the question I have for you today is:

HAVE YOU ACHIEVED THE GOALS YOU SET FOR YOURSELF FOR 2016?

Like most of us,  you have achieved some of the aspirations on your list.  However, there are probably 2-3 things left you have not done and my guess is that at least one of them is a BIG goal!  There is one goal that you have just not gotten to.  Maybe you have been putting off taking action, been afraid of what would happen if you took steps in the direction of your goal, or just hoped and wished it would come true.  So far, no luck!

The good news is, it is not too late!

You still have a few weeks left to make that dream a reality!  But, you are going to have to take a bold action to do it.  There is no more time to dip your toes in the water.  If you want to reach your goal now is the time to jump in with both feet!

Take some time today to think about 4-5 bold moves you can make to reach your goal by the end of the year (or at least be well on your way).

  • If your goal was to lose weight this year, a bold action could be to hire a personal trainer or nutritionist.
  • If your goal was to get a new job, your bold move could be to start a job search and go on a few interviews.
  • If your goal was to take a vacation, be bold and call a travel agent and book that trip!
  • If your goal was to advance your education, research your schooling options and start a class.

We all have responsibilities we must meet, like caring for our families, paying bills, etc., so I am not suggesting you quit your job, leave your family in the lurch, or stop taking care of your obligations.  You may even want to write down some extreme actions as one of your bold moves (just the thought can be fun and empowering).  What I am suggesting, however, is that you take some action outside of your comfort zone, perhaps an action that you have been avoiding.  Make that phone call, join that club, get out an meet new people/network, hire the trainer, take a class, run the marathon.  Do something you would ordinarily not do.

Here’s and example from my list of goals:

My goal: To sell 500+ copies of my book, Cooking with Your Canine, in 2016.

My bold move: I have written a press release to submit to local new stations in an effort to promote the book.  The first edition is currently for sale and the 2nd edition will be done with the editing process in a few weeks and be ready to self publish and sell as an ebook.
          And you better believe you will all know about it when it is released!!!!!!

For me, the idea of reaching out to the public in such a way is quite frightening and intimidating!  It is a truly bold action for me to take and I know it is what I must do if I want to reach my goal.

So, what bold action are you going to take to ensure you achieve your dreams this year?  Declare it in the comment section below as a sign to the Universe you are committed to achieving your goal!

Good Luck and Have Fun!

And, if you need help thinking of a bold move or are unsure of how to take action, fill out the contact form below for a complimentary 15 minute consultation!